In my last post, I began a discussion of philosopher and rape survivor Susan J. Brison’s book Aftermath. What I am posting below completes that discussion, as it completes my draft of the chapter on “Resistance and the Meaning of Trauma.” Below, I begin by reproducing the passage from Brison’s book that I cited at the very end of my preceding post, to give context to what follows.
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. . . many trauma survivors who endured much worse than I did, and for much longer, found, often years later, that it was impossible to go on. It is not a moral failing to leave a world that has become morally unacceptable. I wonder how some can ask, of battered women, ‘Why didn’t they leave?’ while saying, of those driven to suicide by brutal and inescapable aftermath of trauma, ‘Why didn’t they stay?’ Améry wrote, ‘Whoever was tortured, stays tortured’ and this may explain why he, [Primo] Levi, and [Paul] Celan and other Holocaust survivors took their own lives decades after their (physical) torture ended, as if such an explanation were needed.
Only considerably later, near the end of the book, do we learn that the reference to suicide in the passage just quoted is not only thematically important for Brison’s discussion of recovery from trauma. It is also biographically important for Brison herself, as she reveals by telling the reader that it was her own brother’s death by suicide one day before Christmas in 1995 that (page 115) “made [her] rethink the importance of regaining control in recovering from trauma.”
Up to that point, her experience of her rape and its aftermath had led her to think of recovery from trauma as entailing regaining a sense of control, especially by constructing a narrative in which the trauma becomes integrated into the ongoing life-story of the trauma survivor, in a process involving seeking out and being heard by empathic listeners. In succeeding in constructing and sharing such a narrative, the trauma survivor is able to “make sense” of the traumatic experience. However, her brother’s suicide five years after she was raped—and it is well worth noting explicitly here that by experiencing her brother’s suicide Brison herself survives yet another trauma, on top of the one she suffered five years earlier when she was raped and beaten—occasions her rethinking of the whole matter yet again.
“Maybe,” she writes (still on page 115) concerning the results of her rethinking, “the point is to learn how to relinquish control” (emphasis added) rather than somehow to regain it. She then uses the Freudian distinction between “acting out” an earlier trauma in one’s ongoing behavior, as if one were trying at last to “get it right,” in effect, and “working through” the trauma. Learning to relinquish control, she comes to think after her brother’s suicide, requires that we “learn by going where we need to go, to replace the clenched, repetitive acting out with the generativity of working through.” Compulsive repetition, “although [itself] uncontrollable,” as she notes, “is, paradoxically, obsessed with control, with the soothing, numbing safety of the familiar,” and can go so far as to “instill the dangerous, even deadly, illusion of invincibility.” In contrast, the process of working through “is inventive, open to surprise, driven to improvisation,” and “ can provide the foundation of trust on which new life can be built, the steady bass continuo that liberates the other parts to improvise without fear.”
With these remarks toward the end of her book, Brison picks up and deepens a useful distinction she has earlier introduced between what she calls “living to tell,” on the one hand, and “telling to live,” on the other. Those who survive trauma, as Brison herself survived being raped and beaten, often report that it was the felt need to survive the ordeal in order that they could subsequently bear witness to what they had gone through. For them, they had to live through the ordeal in order to tell about it later, eventually constructing a coherent trauma narrative and finding empathic listeners to hear that narrative, as has already been discussed.
However, Brison eventually discerns—no doubt as the result, given what she reveals to the reader only later, of the rethinking her brother’s suicide occasioned for her–that there are definite limits to the healing potential of this process of living to tell, and that in order to continue to recover beyond those limits one must switch to the very different process of telling to live. Thus, she writes (pages 103-104):
What I emphasized earlier in the book as the central task of the survivor–regaining a sense of control, coming up with a coherent trauma narrative and integrating it into one’s life story–may be crucial to the task of bearing witness, of living to tell, but it may, if taken too far, hinder recovery, by tethering the survivor to one rigid version of the past. It may be at odds with telling to live, which I now see as a kind of letting go, playing with the past in order not to be held back as one springs away from it. After gaining enough control over the story to be able to tell it, perhaps one has to give it up, in order to retell it, without having to ‘get it right,’ without fear of betraying it, to be able to rewrite the past in different ways, leading up to an infinite variety of unforeseeable futures.
My earlier discussions of the primary effects of trauma emphasized the loss of control and the disintegration of the (formerly coherent [as she supposed] self. My current view of trauma is that it introduces a ‘surd’–a nonsensical entry–into the series of events in one’s life, making it impossible to carry on with the series. . . .
I thought I had made a certain sense of things until the moment I was assaulted. At any rate I thought I knew how to carry on with my life–to project myself, through action, into an imagined future–the way one knows how to go on in a series such as 2, 4, 6, . . . Not that there was a unique pattern leading ineluctably into a predictable future. The series could have been continued in any number of different ways. . . . But the assumption was that I could find some way of carrying on the narrative of my life. Trauma shatters this assumption by introducing an event that fits no discernible pattern. The result is an uneasy paralysis. I can’t go on, I can’t stay. All that is left is the present, but one that has no meaning. . . .
Narrative, as I now think, facilitates the ability to go on opening up possibilities for the future through retelling the stories of the past. It does this not by reestablishing the illusions of coherence of the past, control over the present, and predictability of the future, but by making it possible to carry on without these illusions.
Trauma breaks the illusion of control. Even more fundamentally, it breaks the illusion of meaningful coherence on which that of control itself depends—the illusion that there is any meaning that can be made to encompass and “make sense” of everything. Trauma is what stands as an exception to the rule that everything has to make sense. It is the ab-surd of non-sense, we might say, building on Brison’s remark that trauma “introduces a ‘surd’—a non-sensical entry—into the series of events in one’s life, making it impossible to carry on with the series.” Trauma is the non-sense that breaks the frame of reference of sense itself.
Concerning the relationship between endeavor of living to tell and that of telling to live, Brison suggests that it is only at the point of the ultimate collapse of the former that the latter can arise. The point of the breakdown of the endeavor of living to tell would thus also be the point of breakthrough for the opposed endeavor of telling to live. Indeed, Brison comes to see the final purpose or function of living to tell, as part of recovery from trauma, to be getting trauma survivors to that point of breakdown and, therefore, possible breakthrough. In effect, the whole point of living to tell would be to get to the point where living to tell no longer has any point, which is just the point where telling to live comes to have one. “It may be,” Brison writes (pages 109-110), “that the retroactive attempt to master the trauma through involuntary repetition is carried out, intrapsychically, until a listener emerges who is stable and reliable enough to bear witness to it. Perhaps there is a psychological imperative, analogous to the legal imperative, to keep telling one’s story until it is heard. After the story has been heard and acknowledged, one can let it go, or unfreeze it. One can unclench.”
What one can at last let go of, is not just the endeavor to make sense of what are supposed to be isolable cases of trauma, as if traumas were just isolated islands of meaninglessness within a vast, surrounding ocean of meaningful events. Rather, what makes trauma so traumatic in the fist place is that it reveals the nonsense of thinking that everything somehow ultimately makes sense, that there is some sort of ultimate meaning to everything that happens, some sufficient reason for its happening. Trauma is the revelation that “the principle of sufficient reason” is no principle at all but only, at best, a wish—and, I will add, though I will not discuss the point here, at worst, and all too often, a nightmare.
As Brison writes (on page 116) a few pages after the passage above, focusing on the notion of the self and referring to her rethinking, after her brother’s suicide, of the nature of recovery from trauma: “Recovery no longer seems to consist of picking up the pieces of a shattered self (or fractured narrative). It’s facing the fact that there never was a coherent self (or story) to begin with.” Once one reaches the point where there is no longer any sense to made, one can at last give up the compulsive struggle to make sense of things, including oneself.
At the point where the struggle to make sense out of trauma breaks down, the option of surrendering that struggle yet continuing to live in the non-sense, the absurdity, finally breaks through. From that point on, to live in such as way as no longer to avoid the trauma one has undergone, but, rather, to face it—to live, that is, in the truth that dawns in trauma itself–one must live in resistance to any claim that what one has suffered has some redeeming meaning.
The meaning of trauma is that there is no meaning to trauma. Accordingly, recovering from trauma is learning to reject any attempt to give it one. Recovering from a trauma requires, finally, refusing to grant the trauma any meaning, and insisting, instead, on its meaninglessness.
It is all “in vain.”
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That includes even the trauma of death itself. The same observation applies not just to some deaths, but to all of them: Every death is in vain. We owe it to the dead to remember that, as I will discuss next.